Before I had my daughter, I had all these ideas about life as a stay at home mom. I envisioned cooking dinners for my family, smiling happy kids, and a clean house. I honestly thought that for once I would have the time to get things done around the house. Boy was I wrong!
Here’s another confession: I have never been good at housekeeping. I’m great at organizing lists and thoughts, but when it comes to putting together a house, I struggle. It used to be a little easier when it was just me in a big one bedroom apartment with a walk in closet big enough to hold all my clothes, but even then I would have piles of folded laundry waiting on my dining room table to be put away for days, even weeks at a time.
As you can probably suspect, getting married and having a baby didn’t make things any easier, even with my stay at home status. My husband has been a HUGE help, and I am so grateful that when he comes home he doesn’t have any expectations of resting (is that even a real thing for new parents? I mean does “rest” ever really happen?) and he takes on responsibilities without being asked. If dinner isn’t made, he pulls out something from the freezer. He does the dishes afterward, and he starts the diapers in the wash and then wakes up early the next morning to hang them on the line. Every girl should have a husband so amazing!
There are still times when I feel this enormous amount of GUILT for not being on top of it all. I feel like I am a bad mom and wife simply because of my messy house. I have to remind myself that while the dust and dishes won’t mind waiting for me until tomorrow, my daughter can’t wait. She is only going to be this small once, and I don’t want to miss out on the important moments just so the house can look pristine. When she is grown up, I won’t take any pride in having kept the house perfect, but I WILL take pride knowing that I did my best to be there for her as a mom.
This is a free printable from The DIY Mommy (click here to find the download on her page). I LOVE this quote, and on my worst days, I have to repeat it to myself over and over again. Save this and put it somewhere you will see it. When you are having a rough day and “nothing” is getting done, look at it as a reminder. You are a a mom, and you’re doing the most important work in the world!