Some women LOVE being pregnant. Their skin glows, their hair is glossy, and they are insanely happy. I am not one of those women. Pregnancy does not “suit” me. I love my babies and will gladly suffer through pregnancy for them, but I will not do it with a smile on my face. And that’s okay! It doesn’t mean I love my babies any less. Here are my top 10 complaints about pregnancy:
1)Morning sickness. First off, I hate that it’s called morning sickness. While it’s most common during the morning, for many pregnant women the nausea lasts from when we wake up to when we fall asleep. For some it only lasts for the first 12 weeks or so, for others it can last way longer. Thankfully I usually don’t throw up much, but I still have bad nausea for the first 14 weeks or so that lasts all day. It impacts my work, my family, everything. And of course, it’s strongest during the time that I am not yet telling everyone that I’m expecting.
2) Doctors appointments. Let’s start off by saying I love my OB. I don’t want you to get the wrong impression. I just really hate the whole doctors appointment routine. It starts with sitting in the waiting room with no one talking to each other, and then having to leave a urine sample (which since you just went to the bathroom before you left the house isn’t always easy, even if you force yourself to nurse a big bottle of water during the entire car ride there). Then of course they are ready for you and you get weighed by a nurse who knows your name (and your weight!) but doesn’t introduce herself before escorting you to an exam room where she takes your vitals and then, you wait again. You finally get to talk to your doc, the whole time realizing that the bottle of water you guzzled down during the car ride over has finally gotten to you, and you really have to GO. Let’s not even talk about the scary blood draws. Bleh.
3) Having to go to the bathroom ALL THE TIME. Except of course, when they need you to leave a sample at the doctors office. But other wise, ALL THE TIME. I could swear baby “Squish” is just kicking my bladder for fun these days.
4) Pregnancy Insomnia. As if the mom of a toddler and the wife of a teeth grinding husband isn’t already suffering from sleep deprivation, I can never seem to catch enough zzz’s when I’m pregnant. Whether it’s because I still haven’t picked out a name for our little one, or that she is wide awake and kicking me even though everyone else in the house is asleep, it’s a drag. Combine it with #2, and you have one cranky mama to be in the morning. Oh, and just a hint, don’t you DARE criticize me for having a cup of coffee now and then. Unless you are willing to offer full time daycare for my toddler as well as a maid service, you have no room to judge.
5)Pregnancy dreams. When I DO actually get to a deep sleep, I have the weirdest dreams! Sometimes they involve really deep conversations with people I haven’t seen since high school, but they almost always end with someone trying to hurt my husband or my babies. Then I wake up in a cold sweat and can’t go back to sleep.
6) Heartburn! Before being pregnant with my oldest daughter, I had never experienced heartburn. So late in my second trimester when I got heartburn for the first time, I seriously thought I was dying. I realize now that sounds wimpy, but I had no idea what was going on with my body and it scared the heck out of me. This time around I was prepared, but that doesn’t make it any more pleasant. Especially when it happens at night time and adds to the whole pregnancy insomnia.
7) The waddle. I remember in my third trimester just wanting to walk normally again. There is nothing sexy or beautiful about the waddle.
8) People treating you like you are about to break. Even though I was waddling, I worked out until my 38th week of pregnancy last time. I was really pretty fit and active. But everywhere I went people were insisting on lifting things for me, or on having me sit down and rest. I just wish people would have treated me the same way in the first few weeks after having a baby, when I was really fragile and needed the help.
9) People who say “Wow, you’re so BIG!” Oh really, I hadn’t noticed. Except when I try to look past my belly and can’t even see my feet. And when I try to find clothes in my closet that actually fit. Okay, so all the time. Maybe, instead of saying “you’re so BIG” you could say “you’re so BEAUTIFUL”? That’s what I really need to hear right now.
10) People who try to give you advice. Whether it’s about birth, sleeping, diapering, whatever… people will see your pregnant belly and tell you exactly how they think you should parent. It might be a complete stranger, or a close relative. The person may have 10 kids or 0. The only time that it’s okay for people to give you advice is if you ask for it. The most useful advice that I received when I was pregnant was this: You and your baby are unique. What worked well for someone else’s family may not work for yours. Do your research and figure out what fits right with you, but be flexible. You and your baby will figure out what works best for both of you in time.
That’s my top 10. What did you dislike most about pregnancy? Or are you one of those women who loves being pregnant? Let me know in the comments!